Six years. For six years. I have been a Mom. And in that time I have been home.
I was home when they took their first steps. When they said their first words. I was there for every fever, every cut, every bruise.
I was there for the up all nights and the early mornings.
And Monday I drove them both to school, dropped them off, and came home to an empty house.
For six years my life revolved around meals, playtime, naps, fights, messes, and moments.
And now we are in a new season.
A season of drop offs, and pick ups, with time only spent together on nights, weekends, and holidays.
As this new season approached many thoughts crossed my mind.
And then the even bigger question…should I get a job outside the home? Is my role now something that is more of a hindrance to the family then a help? I mean I am more than capable of going out and making a steady income.
So I started looking around. I even found a few jobs that would be something I know I would enjoy.
But I couldn’t pull the trigger. I couldn’t.
You see just because my kids are no longer in the home during the day, that doesn’t mean my role has changed. My hours have just shifted a little.
Because I could go back to work, but who watches them on days off, or on Summer break? Who picks them up when they are sick? Who is the constant in their life when Dad’s schedule tends to change?
I fought so hard for so long to earn the title of Stay At Home Mom…and I’m not giving it up. So no, I’m not going back to work.
I’m staying home where I need to be. I will fill my time with maintaining our home, volunteering where I can, and pouring myself into things I am passionate about.
And I’m not ashamed, not even a little bit.
I am a Stay At Home Mom and I am PROUD of it.
I will never be made to feel guilty over the choice I have made to stay home.
There is value in what I do. There is value in what you do.
To the Stay At Home Mom who feels like she isn’t enough. Who feels like she could be doing more to help provide for her family.
What you are doing IS providing. It may not be monetary but the value that you offer is priceless.
And I get that it doesn’t pay the bills, but if you know you are meant to be home with your babies. You fight for that. You find a way.
You are NOT just a Mother. You hold your head high because what you do…is everything. You are helping to shape the future, and that, that has a lot of power.
“Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government, etc exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes?…The homemakers job is one for which all other’s exist.” C.S. Lewis